Parenting A Teenager
Is your child a teenager or about to enter this difficult stage in their development? You should go over the following article for some useful parenting tips.
Communication is the key to establishing a positive relationship with your teenager. You should take the time to talk to your child on a daily basis, and do your best to be a good listener. Do not judge what your child says or thinks and open up about your own feelings, opinions and experiences too. Remember that your child is growing up and is ready to establish a more mature relationship with you, including talking about new topics and being treated as an equal.
Establishing a positive relationship with your teenager does not mean you should become their best friend. Remember that your role as a parent includes setting rules and being an authority figure. You should not dress, talk or behave like a teenager. Find some activities you can both enjoy but make sure these activities are very different from the things your child would do with their friends. If you become your child’s friend and behave like a teenager yourself, your authority will not be recognized.
Acknowledge the fact that your child is growing up. Make some changes to the rules and boundaries you set for them. You could, for instance, give your child more freedom such as allowing them to go places with their friends and stay up a little later. However, it is important to make your child understand that freedom does not come without responsibilities. Take your child’s privileges away if you find that they cannot be trusted or do not seem to be ready for more responsibilities.
Do not expect your child to become a young adult overnight. You are probably amazed by how mature your child is becoming, but do not let appearances fool you. Teenagers grow fast but they sometimes also regress. Do not be surprised if you notice childish behavior from your child. It is best to give your child more responsibilities and freedom a little at a time and monitor how they are doing before you decide to give them more freedom.
Find some things you can share with your teenager. Your child probably wants to spend more time with their friends but you will find that your teenager will want to spend quality time with you too if you can find an activity they enjoy. Show interest in the things your child cares about and do your best to challenge them, for instance by educating yourself on a topic that interests your teenager or practicing their favorite sport so you can play together. Do not force your child to spend time with you; be understanding if they would rather do things with their friends. Try planning some activities in advance and let your teenager know you really appreciate your quality time together.
These tips will help you establish a positive relationship with your teenager while remaining a good parent. Keep in mind that your child is going through a difficult, phase and do not feel bad if your parenting methods do not seem efficient.